You have to be truly ready…

⬆️Today’s page post …

I know there’ll be people in the comments defending dysfunction, and from the bottom of my heart, I understand it.

I spent years dressing mine up, moving around emotional chess pieces, trying to make everything look okay from the outside.

I call it my fanciful era, the time I so badly wanted to be treated well that I convinced myself mistreatment was love.

I softened red flags, excused the inexcusable, and kept repainting the same story in prettier shades, hoping this time it might feel like the place I was desperately searching for.

That kind of clarity doesn’t come easy. It doesn’t happen just because you read a quote or decide you’ve had enough, it starts with recognising what’s really happening. You can’t change what you can’t see. And most of us don’t see it, not really. We call it love, loyalty, patience , when half the time it’s just us trying to survive the same cycle. The real work begins the moment you stop brushing it off and finally admit what you’re doing, and why. That’s when the journey back to yourself really begins.

And that’s where healing begins, not in the light, but usually from the depths of despair. It starts when you’re too tired to keep pretending, too worn down to keep spinning the same narrative.

Healing isn’t just about walking away from them, it’s about turning toward you, the part that kept trying, kept fixing, kept believing. When you finally start to understand her, everything shifts. You stop defending dysfunction because you can finally see what it’s cost you.

But let’s be real, it’s not some neat, one time awakening. It’s a journey born from heartbreak, the kind that breaks you. You’ll start over more times than you can count. You’ll fall back into old habits and pull yourself out again. But each time, you grow a little stronger, a little clearer, until one day you realise you’ll never settle for less than what you truly deserve.

And sometimes, when you start the journey, you won’t feel like you deserve it yet. But you do, you always did.