Healing…

Forgiveness, is just like everything else in life, it’s a choice. There was a time in my life where I forgave everything. Grace upon Grace was my motto.

I don’t do that anymore. I have learned that some things are unforgivable.

Whenever I express my feelings about forgiveness, a lot of people get upset. Because they choose to forgive, they think that is the only way. They are very passionate with their views as to why this is the only option.

I have no issue at all with people choosing to forgive. I respect their choices. Yet for some reason that is not reciprocated.

Personally, I feel that forgiving certain acts is enabling further bad behaviour. When there is no change or accountability, for me there is no forgiveness. That’s not to say that I don’t forgive some things. And it’s a genuine forgiveness, no grudges, no resentment, it’s a clean slate.

I’ve been told that I can not heal, move forward, or let go of anger, if I don’t forgive. I patiently explain, that I am not angry or bitter, and I am healing just fine. My explanations are always met with further insistence. It’s often relentless. Myself and others continue to reason, but to no avail. Not at any point do we push our narrative on others or judge the opposing opinion. We never try to convince anyone not to forgive. We are just defending our choices.

For some people to forgive certain acts is conflicting. It makes us feel compromised. This hinders our healing.

Imagine if I was to tell you that you were wrong for forgiving.  I wouldn’t dare. Who am I to tell you what is best for you.

I find it ironic that the majority of people who choose forgiveness are not more accepting of those that don’t. It seems contradictory on some level.

I've written many quotes on this topic, no doubt there will be more...

I'm not a petty person. I rarely put individuals on blast. This however, is a perfect example of the blog I wrote yesterday.

No matter how this subject is approached, there is never, 'I get you girl, let's agree to disagree'.

It was also suggested by a couple of commenters that I needed 'to read what God requires of us', with the addition of some bible verses.

These pious women condemning. The hypocrisy, judgement and vitriol, seems far removed from what they are preaching.

As far as my point goes, on yesterdays quote, I rest my case.