Dextered

I was literally just verbally mauled for having an opinion. And to add insult to injury it wasn't even offensive or directed towards anyone. She just tagged herself in for the soul purpose of shooting a few poison barbs in my direction.

There was no sassy me provocation, just an innocent lil interaction.

If this is how people behave with strangers on the internet, I can only imagine the absolute tyrant they are in real life. Lucky I don't have super powers, because my initial outrage at the attack may have rendered her a puddle.

I do see the irony, my Dexter quote and all. In my defence I wasn’t intending on doing the Dextering. I was just wondering why someone else hadn’t. Like how do you get that far in life with that type of attitude.

Maybe she had taken offence at something I had said previously. Sometimes people take a dislike to me, take my quotes personally, or generally don't like that I even have an opinion.

Instead of leaving my page, people lay in wait to pounce. They tend to be able to say whatever they like to me, unfiltered, but my clapbacks are frowned upon. No right of reply allowed, I am to be seen but not heard.

Tell that to my smart mouth and eye roll.

I also have to remind myself that my culture is different. Being Australian we are not as politically passionate and divided. Well, let me rephrase that, we use to not be so divided, until covid. We are no longer the laid back 'she'll be right mate' country we once were. But that's a whole other blog 💁🏻‍♀️.

Ok after venting, I do feel a little bad (🤦‍♀️a footnote before I've even finished), let's play devils advocate. Maybe she has a whole lot going on, or has just generally had a rough life. 🤔 But that kinda makes me a lil mad too. I mean that could be said for all of us. I could have ripped her head off and shoved it down her neck cavity, not dexterishly, just metaphorically. But I just CHOSE not to react, the same way, she could have also chosen to comment respectfully.

Maybe the aggression we often see directed at strangers is the by product of the frustrations of our new normal. And it is new, for now people seem to be reacting from a place of anger rather than kindness. Hopefully the pendulum will swing back the other way.

I'd like to think that moving forward I will be less affected by peoples aggression, but I don't think it is something that I will ever just accept. Unjustness is not something that I will ever turn a blind eye to. To do so in my opinion is to contribution the problem.

It's not a petty little call out against someone attacking me. It's a NO, this kind of behaviour will never be part of my normal.

29th November 2022

Footnote:

1st December 2022

Footnote:

I often see page authors having a rant about aggressive followers and think, really it's just the internet, get over it. It seems petty to be so affected by anonymous people. But the reality is, when it happens to you it does affect you, and it happens often. I have had the occasional rant after particularly gruelling interactions. For me I think on some level it feels like I'm being self indulgent, but I'm not doing it to garner positive attention. It just feels necessary to address the way people behave these days. It's nothing short of outrageous. This is the end of a lil rant I had yesterday, I shant torture you with the whole thing...

I am usually somewhat more diplomatic, I try to appeal to peoples sense of empathy not incite further rioting. But yesterday I didn't care, I was over it, pissed. I didn't deserve the vitriol and lynching I received for simply advocating for others. I felt depleted, like there is just no hope for humanity, what can i say, I'm a sensitive soul 💁🏻‍♀️. It might seem like it's just some comments from strangers, but for me it's a reflection of just how far we've digressed as a whole. Anyways to the point girlfriend, and there is a point.

You saw the rant, I didn't do my usual, people make spelling errors for many different reasons approach, there just seemed no point. I was actually telling my partner, how hurtful it is when you're just trying to make a small difference and you get vilified. Shortly after I checked my notifications to see a follower had posted this in the comments.

It's something I posted a while back after, yet another spelling error rocked someone's foundation.

There I had been the whole afternoon, feeling what's the point, in my gloomy haze of we are fuckedness and this little gesture, restored my faith. Might sound a lil melodramatic, but for me it was a lil nudge, I get them often, but that's a whole other blog 😊. The simple act of that lady posting my previous words is a gentle reminder, that sometimes I do say something that resonates with others. That people do care and understand about others feelings.

Then a couple of hours later another person posted it on the initial spelling error faux pas post. This will sound sappy, but it touched my heart, not in an Oh I wrote that kind of way, more in a fuck you spelling nazi, we see you way. That quote being posted a couple of times was like a reset for me.

It really is difficult, deciding which me to bring out when these situations arise. I have a soft heart and a hard exterior and my fuck off reflex is easily activated.

But on a positive note, peoples comments are often a source of inspiration for my writing. So I'll probably never run out of content 💁🏻‍♀️