Speaking of favourite quotes…

I was messaging with a friend recently, from another country, accross the pond. A friend of seven years that I’ve not physically met. A bunch of us met in a group she had made on fb, we all bonded over mutual life struggles. I think back then dysfunction was outing itself, people were tending to be more open and comfortable sharing, or reaching out with more transparency than we had been used to. It seems easier to share with someone you have a clean slate with.

In hindsight we were all making dumb decisions, well I know I was.  But those decisions, prompted changes that we needed to make, and we did it together, in our own little bubble.

For me in my late 40’s this was a time of self discovery and the beginning of a journey that eventually led me to personal autonomy.

I will be forever grateful for that group of people. They didn’t realise it but at the time they helped fill the void of the family that I lost.

The friendship with her and I has stood the test of time. Months might pass with no words, but knowing each is still there in the background, quietly watching on is comforting.

We tend to reach out when we know the other is struggling, but we don’t really speak of the struggle, probably everything but. It’s just not necessary, we are more like an escape from that.

We each have our day to day people that we share our finer details with. It’s not that we wouldn’t or haven’t, it’s just that it's not necessary.

To be honest I share way more in my blogs and quotes than I do in my real life. I guess that makes me feel already heard. There's something about writing it out, it's cathartic, freeing.

Anyways mid conversation I added this,

( yes, I know there are spelling mistakes, it's not like I'm an actual author 💁🏻‍♀️)

and continued with the topic at hand.

It’s was prompted by this quote,

which stays with me always, in the back of my mind. I’d say it might be my favourite.

There’s something so simple about it. So basic, and so real.

No matter what happens, the world goes on, we can step off for a minute, choose not to participate, but it goes on around us.

Right now there are people experiencing the worst and best moments of their lives, and everything else just continues on, unaffected, unaware.

I remember times when I felt like I might not make it through, consumed by fear, heartache, any number of things. Wondering how life could ever be good again.

All the while someone else is leisurely having a breakfast of tea and toast, in a pleasant little setting, smiling whilst contemplating the day ahead.

Life just goes on, regardless, so you just go on with it. You might be numb, but you go through the motions, one foot in front of the other until you make some headway. Eventually you come out the other side. You might have some battle scars, but usually you heal and continue to grow into a wiser human. Maybe not the same human, but wiser nonetheless.

Footnote:

As if on cue this appeared in my memories today, after I had published this blog.